Now in September…

 

Monday Love 💝Bloody hell! This is food poisoning on crack. The day was so tricky, even my Monday write-up spilled into…

Posted by SallyChiwuziedotcom on Monday, September 11, 2017

Friday Love 💝Sally Chiwuzie here, sunglasses on. Dream chasing and legacy building are on track. Continuous…

Posted by SallyChiwuziedotcom on Friday, September 8, 2017

Thursday Love 💝What's that saying again? 'Pride goes before a fall!' Sally Chiwuzie here, sunglasses on. Dream…

Posted by SallyChiwuziedotcom on Thursday, September 7, 2017

'Time to be an adultier adult.' I reminded myself following a good few days of compulsory logistics overhaul. Even with…

Posted by SallyChiwuziedotcom on Wednesday, September 6, 2017

Tuesday Love 💝Sally Chiwuzie here, sunglasses on. Dream chasing and legacy building are on track. Continuous…

Posted by SallyChiwuziedotcom on Tuesday, September 5, 2017

Monday Love 💝So my ex is seeing someone and apparently they are happy. I cannot, for the life of me, fathom the…

Posted by SallyChiwuziedotcom on Monday, September 4, 2017

*clears throat* – repeat after me: 'something amazing is about to happen' (in your mind, but imagine you are being…

Posted by SallyChiwuziedotcom on Friday, September 1, 2017

…and the 'ember months begin #itschristmastimorrow #Q4 #autumn🍁 #finishstrong #2017goals #UnshakableIsaStateOfMind #unshakable

Posted by SallyChiwuziedotcom on Friday, September 1, 2017

MilliOnAir June Edition

If you gaze in the abyss, be rest assured the abyss will gaze back at you.
The question is: can you handle the abyss? Can you handle its gaze? Can you win the stare-out?
Can you sprinkle star dust into its deep darkness? Can you cause it to light up in little bursts?
Can you whisper so that silent symphonies overthrow its frightful baritone groan? Dare you giggle at its voice?
Will you give its bottomless pit a hoist? Will you slow dance with its devil and keep your halo intact when it entangles with its horns?
Can your soul stand firm in the face of life’s what-nots, life’s solution-less problems, unanswerable questions and shades of grey? Shades of death?
If you gaze into the abyss, the abyss will gaze back at you.
The question is: can you handle the abyss? Are you unshakable?

Following on from the horrific attacks on Manchester and London, I have spent time wondering if the world truly has changed or if I just grew up, thereby becoming more consciously aware. A bit of both maybe. We also live in a world where technology is king and people have access to all sorts. This I refer to as ‘gazing into the abyss’ (modelled partially out of Friedrich Bietzche’s philosophy) because of the sheer volume of mind consuming material that is openly on display. We need to protect ourselves and our children (our future leaders) by ensuring that our foundation is solid. Our roots must be firmly in the ground and certain beliefs about life, about (self) love, about decorum and do’s and don’ts must be scribed within our souls with indelible ink – amendments of the basic principles should be impossible. I say this because it is impossible not to dabble with the indecipherable shades of grey of this world, but to continue to be exactly who your foundation says you are while the confusion of the abyss remains constant is to be unshakable. This is what we need to heal this world’s broken heart. 

Unshakable is a state of mind. It is modelled out of 3 basic principles which have become its motto:
Be unshakable. 
Be in truth with yourself.
Love yourself. 

Lots of love,
Sally x 

Map out your future but Do it in pencil

Map out your future

 

I’m still on my Jon Bon Jovi play list and interesting that the below would float my way as if by coincidence, but we all know there’s no such thing, right?

It’s July. The month of my birth and I usually spend it stock-taking, strategising and resetting milestones. This year has been particularly fast paced with blessings, lessons and impossible dilemmas too. I suppose this week particularly has seen me go through moments of discouragement in the somewhat stagnant points I have found myself from time to time, especially with the work/family life balance I have hammered on about recently so Bon Jovi’s reminder below is well timed. Hardly anything will go exactly according to plan. For this reason, I suppose it’s all good and well sketching out grand plans for the future, what I need to constantly remind myself is to allow these plans to be tweakable. So I’ll use a pencil from now on. How about that?

Sally Chiwuzie here, sunglasses on. Dream chasing and legacy building are on track. Continuous improvement has this to say: in mapping out plans for H2 2016, let’s swap the pen for a pencil. In the spirit of ‘less is more’, let’s just leave it at that, shall we?

Be unshakable. Be in truth with yourself. Love yourself.

Lots of love,
Unshakable Sally xxx

#SallyChiwuzie #UNSHAKABLE#TogetherWeAreUnshakable #SilentSymphonies#ThursdayLove #JonBonJovi ❤️Map out your future

 

Map out your future

roar with confidence

Roar with confidence

Roar with confidence

One of my earliest memories of living within a nuclear family is that my dad loved soft rock blasting through the entire house. Considering it was the 80’s, he was quite technically savvy, what with fancy connecting speakers linked to the main connection in their bedroom upstairs. He also had a microphone connected up there so in the middle of watching a cartoon or stealing cubes of sugar (don’t judge me) I would hear him through the public address system – ‘Sally, coffee please…’ I thought my dad was the coolest man alive, especially when his friends would hail him by his nickname – DonJ! Then I grew up and learnt about his crazy imperfections. Imperfections that had me thinking ‘I am soooo judging you right now. Jeez!’ All in all, I understand that the crazy mix of perfect imperfections and flaws has a lot to do with who I am today. Do you think me weird or a bit unusual? Opinionated? Fierce and/or feisty? I come from a mixed-blooded union – a mum who gave her all in every capacity and a dad who taught me sometimes intentionally, at other times subconsciously – inadvertently by virtue of his actions that above all things to know and love who I am because a tiger does not and will never declare its own tigritude. For this reason, I roar with confidence and blessed assurance. For this reason, I am proud. For this reason, I am unshakable!

Sally Chiwuzie here, sunglasses on. Dream chasing and legacy building are on track. I am listening to Jon Bon Jovi on the train, reminiscing about my childhood on my fathers 70th birthday. It’s been a long rough obstacle-clad road to womanhood, I tell ya, but I think I’ve done ok and a lot of that has to do with a strong foundation and an unshakable identity. Continuous improvement has this to say – Remember who you are always. Always!

Be unshakable. Be in truth with yourself. Love yourself.

Lots of love,
Unshakable Sally xxx

#SallyChiwuzie #UNSHAKABLE#TogetherWeAreUnshakable #SilentSymphonies#DonJ #Tigrituderoar with confidence

wild heart

Have a colourfully, exploratory wild heart

wild heart

 

I’m a hopeless romantic. A day dreaming, Dream chaser. A see-er of all things bright and beautiful for the most part and for this reason, the things that break my heart cause me to mourn for far longer than I should. If I embarked on every adventure my heart set out on, I would be a walking disaster. Some of the best of us are born this way and shouldn’t have to apologise for it or change it. We probably just need to learn to always take our head along for the ride for consultation as and when required; also to ensure that the heart stays within its cage when it comes up with clever nonsense like embarking on a mission to change a static situation that will never be anything other than what it is. So I understand there is no requirement to allow my heart to be anything other than what it is, except to ensure that my head tags along on its wild adventures, handcuffs in tow to ensure that it is restrained within its cage when it’s overzealous beat threatens the wellbeing of body and soul.

Sally Chiwuzie here, sunglasses on. Dream chasing and legacy building are on track. Continuous improvement has this to say: be unshakable. Have a colourfully, exploratory wild heart, but keep your head close by with the key to its cage. Get it?

Be unshakable. Be in truth with yourself. Love yourself.

Lots of love,
Unshakable Sally xxx

#SallyChiwuzie #UNSHAKABLE#TogetherWeAreUnshakable #SilentSymphonies#TuesdayLovewild heart

The overarching principle is love

The overarching principle is love

From birth our default setting is love. I don’t think any baby is born noticing who is black, white or asian. I don’t think they are particularly bothered by any of the characteristics of the people around them as long as they are loved and cared for. Somewhere along life path, they are taught this and that about the world. Some have a strong enough default setting of love to walk within their truth and respect others who differ from them in any way. Borrowing words I saw on my friend tunji’s timeline this morning – All cops are not murderers. All Muslims are not terrorists. All white people are not racist. All black men are not suspects. All Christians are not judgmental. But some are! And for the life of me, I cannot figure out at what point in life it became acceptable in another human beings consciousness to cause harm, cause death to a fellow human being. No, I didn’t watch the Alton Sterling video because I don’t think it is possible to feel any worse than I do. The penalty for being who you are shouldn’t be death, not when we are born love, not when the overarching principle is love.

Sally Chiwuzie here, sunglasses on. Dream chasing and legacy building are on track. Continuous improvement is urging my aching heart not to give up on this love business but the world’s broken heart…it hurts. The problem is not religion, culture, race, sexual orientation. The problem is that we have forgotten our humanness, forgotten we are the same, forgotten the overarching principle…love – and that is such a damn heartbreaking shame! 💔

The overarching principle is love!
Be unshakable. Be in truth with yourself. Love yourself.

Lots of love,
Unshakable Sally xxx

#SallyChiwuzie #UNSHAKABLE#TogetherWeAreUnshakable #SilentSymphonies#BlackLivesMatter #FridayInspirationThe overarching principle is love

Keep on walking

Keep on walking
Love in the middle of the week 💝

While most of my friends, and indeed the world were busy watching ‘Game of thrones’ (I promise I’ll join in soon 😜), I was busy watching…wait for it….’Sex and the city’. Yup. I love Carrie Bradshaw’s (Sarah Jessica Parker) openness and vulnerability and every time I am asked what kind of series Silent Symphonies might be, a variation of Sex and the city usually springs to mind. Anyway, the episode I watched saw Carrie receive an invite to star in a fashion show where she would strut her stuff in top designers categorised as ‘models’ and ‘real people’, she falling into the latter category. After a lot of umming and ahhing, she agreed to do it. In all her strutting glory, she really went for it and fell flat-faced on the runway. The whole world stopped in shock and horror as she lay there contemplating the end of her life almost literally. Then she got back up and did her thing. If social media had been the ‘in thing’ then, trust me, that video would have been trending. People loved it and I suppose it buttressed the ‘Stumble. Fall. repeat’ cycle that we all face in real life. I mean, real people don’t fall flat-faced on the floor and remain there permanently.

Sally Chiwuzie here, sunglasses on. Dream chasing and legacy building are on track. Continuous improvement comes to me in the form of Candace Bushnell’s clever quote via Carrie Bradshaw as featured in Vogue – a great reminder. When real people fall down in life, they get right back up and keep on walking. Ain’t that the truth?! Let’s strut our stuff on life’s runway…who cares what happened moments before? Be unshakable…

Be unshakable. Be in truth with yourself. Love yourself.

Lots of love,
Unshakable Sally xxx

#SallyChiwuzie #UNSHAKABLE#TogetherWeAreUnshakable #SilentSymphonies#SexAndTheCity #CandaceBushnell#CarrieBradshaw #vogue #SarahJessicaParker#WednesdayMotivationKeep on walking

 

 

Keep on walking

 

If your should’a could’a, it would’a

If your should’a could’a, it would’a

A flaw of mine is the ability to sit for way longer than necessary or permissible in what I like to call, and you may be familiar with by now, woe-is-me mode. When I get into this mode, I throw an extraordinary pity-party, usually for one but sometimes for rather irritated guests examining every possible scenario in which said situation played out differently. I have since learnt how counter-productive wailing hysterically over spilt milk is and as such have decided that I MUST find away to get rid of this ridiculous habit. Henceforth, I will listen to my diva inner voice / alter ego instead. ‘Get over it, move on to plan b. If that doesn’t work, try c, d, e, e-t-friggin’-c.’ She says clicking her fingers at me.

Sally Chiwuzie here, sunglasses on. Dream chasing and legacy building are on track. By way of continuous improvement, and in addition to the above, my diva inner voice / alter ego also has this to say: trust me, if your should’a could’a, it would’a – so just move the *#%+#•.,’* on.

Be unshakable. Be in truth with yourself. Love yourself.

Lots of love,
Unshakable Sally xxx

#SallyChiwuzie #UNSHAKABLE#TogetherWeAreUnshakable #SilentSymphonies#TuesdayLove #DoneWithShouldaCouldaWouldaIf your should'a could'a, it would'a

 

 

If your should’a could’a, it would’a

 

#TogetherWeAreUnshakable: ‘What if I fall?’ I ask. ‘Oh but darling, what if you fly?’

I have spent most of my adult life ending up at a cliff, closing my eyes and jumping off it not knowing if I was going to fly or fall. Fortunately, most times my calculated risk paid of and I flew but there were times when I landed flat on my arse with an intense soreness to prove it. Did that stop me jumping off the next cliff? I suppose I am an incorrigible so and so who thinks a sore arse is worth it 😀. So I have gone through life telling myself not to be afraid and I have only just come to realise how silly that is. ‘Don’t be afraid’ is much akin to insinuating that I ‘don’t sneeze’ or ‘don’t duck when that punch is heading my way’ or ‘don’t blink’. Basically, ‘don’t be human’. Fear is a natural instinct so I suppose whenever I stand at that cliff, what I really am telling myself is that I am aware that I am afraid but where’s the legacy I leave behind if I succumb to that fear. Sore arse and whatever else comes with it, I’m going to jump. And I do.

Sally Chiwuzie here, no sunglasses on today. Dream chasing and legacy building are on track. Continuous improvement comes to me in the form of a soliloquy starring my inner voice and I in dialogue I have read many times but takes on new meaning today: ‘what if I fall?’ I ask. ‘Oh but darling, what if you fly?’

Be UNSHAKABLE. Be in truth with yourself. Love yourself.

Lots of love,
Unshakable Sally xxx

#SallyChiwuzie #UNSHAKABLE#TogetherWeAreUnshakable #SilentSymphonies#WednesdayLove13321972_10153941805251773_3557712646389195713_n

#‎TogetherWeAreUnshakable: It’s not always about you

I think it might have been this post – https://www.facebook.com/SallyChiwuziedotcom/posts/842295295875975:0 (Headline – I know what I bring to the table. For this reason, I am happy to dine solo) that triggered a social media comment that labelled me narcissist, implying that my version of self-love was arrogant. I explained that it is, in fact, the love and confidence I have in myself that gives me the strength to extend that love to my interactions.

A few days ago I had this mad arse disagreement with a senior member of my inner circle – tantrums and tears, the works. Following on from a conversation about it, I apologised for my contribution to the mess. I apologised because firstly, when someone tells you that you hurt them, it’s not up to you to decide that you didn’t. I apologised because there was enough belief in myself to leave my ego un-dented by an act of love. I apologised because I have enough conviction in my own truths to respect other people’s. Make sense? 

Sally Chiwuzie here, sunglasses on – trying to inspire the sun to make an appearance. Dream chasing and legacy building are on track. Continuous improvement has this to say: walk your walk, talk your talk and be unshakable but understand that it’s not always about you. That balance right there…that’s love, true love.

Be unshakable. Be in truth with yourself. Love yourself.

Lots of love,
Unshakable Sally xxx

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