MilliOnAir February Edition

#Unshakable is a state of mind

Have you heard about legally blind Jessica Gallagher – mega successful Australian Paralympic heroine? The rare disease Jessica suffers from means that her eyesight deteriorated over time. She’s unshakable! Do you think there were times when she hit rock bottom and questioned the validity of her life? Possibly. You see, I draw inspiration from stories of unshakable strength and courage such as these. My portion of sufferings may pale in comparison, however, I know what it feels like to hit rock bottom so much so that even the most basic requirement (waking up) is too much of an uphill task, too much to ask. I also know what it’s like to feel incapacitated within a situation created by unforeseen circumstances. I understand why the caged bird sings and I hear her lyrics clearly. I am familiar with feelings of hopelessness and helplessness. Having said that though, one thing I know for sure is that sometimes, rock bottom is a solid foundation. (Insert rock bottom photo here). You see, the reality of life is that we can form bonds, seek help and advice, discover people who walk the same path we do, but when it comes to the actual walking, nobody can do that for us. In the grand scheme of things, nobody can make our dreams come true. That only happens in Disney Land. It’s a human characteristic to seek validation, to depend on external influences for, happiness, fulfilment, to feel beautiful, worthy, make it all happen but the truth is that, as Jessica proves, all the power we need to be who we are destined to be exists within us already.

During my process of self (re)discovery, I learnt this the hard way in many respects and have long since adopted the DIY philosophy. I learnt that people will let you down – jobs will fall short of expectations and things will go askew. Relationships will leave you in an emotional quandary and life will throw you weird arse curve balls. Your safe haven will occasionally sell out and the only thing that will make sense is your ability to decipher your own path in order to steer destiny in your favour. For me, it is right there…right there at rock bottom that the light bulb moment happens, after which I see clearly. In the depths of those cold moments of insane pain is where I learn to eliminate the words ‘I can’t’ from my mindset library to enable myself create magic moments of gold and gain. I think this is the point when amputated legs or blindness will not prevent a fabulous #TurnUp at the Paralympics, the loss of a marriage will not stop that dream, and from somewhere deep inside will  erupt the courage to take a leap of faith for a dream that sometimes nobody but the dreamer can contemplate. One of the characteristics of being unshakable is to understand that in life nobody but you can save you. (Insert unshakable photo here) For me, it is at this realisation that I own my situation. I walk the walk, talk the talk, I become my own unshakable boss. This is the point at which I become my own damn super sexy superhero sporting a bright red cape. Yup. Recap – Rock bottom is a solid foundation. Unshakable is a state of mind. Sometimes you have to be your own superhero! (Insert superhero photo here)
Be unshakable. Be in truth with yourself. Love yourself.
Lots of love,
Unshakable Sally x
ome days you just need to get on with it

Some days you just need to get on with it. Simples!

Some days you just need to get on with it. Simples!

A million things to do and two million ways to do these, with a 50% chance of getting it right (or wrong, depending on your half glass full/empty approach this morning). Despite the fact that it could so easily go wrong, life will still throw obstacles even whilst you attempt your damn best. Almost everyday these last few weeks has felt like one of those days with no respite, however, there’s always the ultimate goal to tick off as a reward. So for me this morning, it’s one more sleep, one more alarm at stupid o’clock, one more crazy chaotic scramble and then it’s the weekend. For this reason when my ‘woe-is-me’, ‘why-me?’, ‘I-am-the-ultimate-victim’ tears threatened to make an appearance, I just thought, you know what? Not today. Firstly, I have blue mascara on and the only thing worse than looking like I have been punched in the eye is looking like I have been punched in the eyes with confusing blue bruises 😐😳. So you know what, today I can’t be bothered. Some days you just need to get on with it. Simples!

Sally Chiwuzie here, sunglasses on on a borderline grey day – pout on, nonchalant look too. #SorryNotSorry. Continuous improvement comes to me as a voice in my head applauding me for my non-meltdown this morning. I am ignoring the applause. I have several ‘forgive me for not responding’ (Jacqueline is up first, then Genevieve), ‘sorry for snapping at you’ (Thelma) texts and late bills/emails to get on with before my 9-5 and sometimes the only way I know how to be an unshakable badass is to simply get on with it. First, coffee ☕️
Be unshakable. Be in truth with yourself. Love yourself.

Lots of love,
Unshakable Sally xxx

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 ome days you just need to get on with it
In playing hurt ping-pong nobody ever wins

In playing hurt ping-pong nobody ever wins

In playing hurt ping-pong nobody ever wins

A poem I studied during English Literature in the early-mid nineties made an appearance in the middle of a crossroads battle involving what’s right vs. what’s fair. Without going into too much detail, I have battled with a situation that taught me that in relationships gone wrong (in my case, involving kids), people will always lash out. I think in many respects, this is a ‘dog-eat-dog’, ‘survival of the fittest’ mode human beings learn over time. I say that because my immediate reaction / impulse to my anger was revenge. You hurt me, I hurt you back. Simple. Upon further reflection (this is why I need to learn to take time out to think it through – work in progress), I came to realise that Mahatma Gandhi had a point when he said that an eye for an eye would make the whole world blind. We would create a game of hurt ping-ping, then what? Who wins? Who loses? When would it end? How would it end? Would it end? *sighs *

Sally Chiwuzie here, sunglasses on. Dream chasing and legacy building are on track. Lessons learnt log has an addition – what’s right will be fair in the long run as long as we walk in our truth and in the understanding that life will not always dance to our tune. Continuous improvement comes to me in a whisper that will remain on repeat until the message hits home successfully. ‘Sally in playing hurt ping-pong nobody ever wins.’

Be unshakable. Be in truth with yourself. Love yourself.

Lots of love,
Unshakable Sally xxx

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In playing hurt ping-pong nobody ever wins
In playing hurt ping-pong nobody ever wins

No child is bad from the beginning they imitate the atmosphere

No child is bad from the beginning they imitate the atmosphere
I joined in a live channel 4 interview with the beautifully talented Chimamanda Adichie a couple of days ago. She got a hell of a lot of praise from spectators and fans with me in the forefront. Unfortunately, she got quite a bit of criticism as well. Some said she sounded like a man, others questioned her knowledge of politics. Some asked what was so special about her afro, and in fact caucasian hair is just as nice (like anyone had insinuated the opposite. Jeez). A good point she made which resonated with me is that when I was a wee tot, I never noticed if the next person had an afro or straight hair, the colour of their skin or distinguishing characteristics, neither would I ever have dreamed that anyone deserved to die by virtue of characteristics that they were born into or for the sake of a pointless argument for or against the fact for that matter. Mind boggling stuff really. For this reason I believe our default setting is love, respect, acceptance and unity. It’s what we hear that shapes what we end up believing and the ideas we imitate. We can change this for future generations if we teach the correct truths. That everybody is somebody worthy in equal measure. No buts or howevers.Sally Chiwuzie here, sunglasses on despite it being a grey day. Dream chasing and legacy building are on track. Continuous improvement reminds me that we need to ensure that at any point in time we are helping to build the correct foundation. In the words of Prince, no child is bad from the beginning, they imitate the atmosphere.

Be unshakable. Be in truth with yourself. Love yourself.

Lots of love,
Unshakable Sally xxx

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 No child is bad from the beginning they imitate the atmosphere
No child is bad from the beginning they imitate the atmosphere
Can have more than one soulmate

Can have more than one soulmate in a life time?

Can have more than one soulmate in a life time?
I saw the below on the beautiful Jennifer‘s timeline and it intrigued me. Does this mean we can have more than one soulmate in a life time? Is the soulmate status always a reciprocal deal? Is it always necessarily a romantic entanglement?

I think everyone’s interaction story is personal and different. For me, I have categories of personal interactions that meet my needs at varying degrees, some rank more highly than others naturally but there is definitely a select group of people who I call my inner circle. Within this group I have a soulmate in each individual connection for the naturalness of the love power that gravitates our souls into alignment. I love them back. Hard.

Sally Chiwuzie here, sunglasses on – no sun though – just a diva habit of some sort that has grown with my daily blogs. Dream chasing and legacy building are on track. Continuous improvement pulls me to a place of gratitude so today, no clever quotes, no gimmicks, just love. I am grateful for my inner circle. Because of you, I am able to take naturally progressive steps towards becoming who I have always wanted to be, a better version of myself everyday. So with that said, can I be nosey and ask about YOUR definition of a soul mate is and who comes to mind? Who are you grateful for this Wednesday morning?

Be unshakable. Be in truth with yourself. Love yourself.

Lots of love,
Unshakable Sally xxx

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Can have more than one soulmate
Can have more than one soulmate

Sometimes we need to paint those white roses red

Sometimes we need to paint those white roses red

I am still on the ‘Alice in Wonderland’ theme songs play list (reference hump day post – https://www.facebook.com/SallyChiwuziedotcom/posts/895420443896793:0, and with keen nostalgia, I listened to the song about painting the white roses red because the queen would be furious about the blunder of white roses instead of red. For my overactive imagination, painting the white roses red took a different meaning. It reminded me of temporary relief. It reminded me of times when I did stuff I knew I would regret in the metaphoric morning. The extra mile I would have to run to burn off the chocolate digestives, the cheeky drink with the insightful Lyndsay from next door ON a school night (strewth!), or more interestingly, the conscience crisis / good scolding I would have to give myself following that one naughty text (‘sexting’ as it’s called these days) because apparently, it’s no good for me (listening to LeeAnne Wormack’s ‘I may hate myself in the morning’ https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=gS35hISn7x0 doesn’t help 😜. Go on, click on the link), I think that as part of the ‘being human’ package, the heart wants what the heart wants and as long as you remain in truth with yourself, an occasional indulgence in guilty pleasures just might help in a world where there are strict rules and codes of conduct with no proven manual as supporting evidence. Do you see where I am going with this?

Sally Chiwuzie here, sunglasses on. Dream chasing and legacy building are on track. Continuous improvement has this to say: Forgive yourself for being human. Sometimes we need to paint those white roses red for sanity purposes as long as we remember it’s only ever temporary. In other words, just don’t pack up and live there. Do you know what I mean?

Be unshakable. Be in truth with yourself. Love yourself.

Lots of love,
Unshakable Sally xxx

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Sometimes we need to paint those white roses red

 

Before Alice got to wonderland, she had to fall

Before Alice got to wonderland she had to fall

Before Alice got to wonderland she had to fall

Its hump day guys. How has your week been so far? For me, it’s been a tough old week with multiple complexities presenting themselves for a ‘fix it’ in parallel. You see, with a chaotic routine, regularly enough I reach breaking point, but somehow it’s when things feel like they cannot possibly get any worse that from nowhere, there’s a breakthrough. So until then, I tend to just find me a haven for sanity purposes (Where’s your haven by the way?). Today my haven has taken me back to my childhood and I am listening to theme songs from Alice in Wonderland. When this thought flashed before me, I knew it was a personal message to me to hang in there and remain unshakable.

Sally Chiwuzie here, sunglasses on. Dream chasing and legacy building are on track. Continuous improvement has the following words on repeat: Before Alice got to wonderland, she had to fall. I’ll leave that for your contemplation. Got it? Now let’s go rock Wednesday!

Be UNSHAKABLE. Be in truth with yourself. LOVE yourself!

Lots of love,
Unshakable Sally xxx

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Before Alice got to wonderland she had to fall

 

Map out your future but Do it in pencil

Map out your future

 

I’m still on my Jon Bon Jovi play list and interesting that the below would float my way as if by coincidence, but we all know there’s no such thing, right?

It’s July. The month of my birth and I usually spend it stock-taking, strategising and resetting milestones. This year has been particularly fast paced with blessings, lessons and impossible dilemmas too. I suppose this week particularly has seen me go through moments of discouragement in the somewhat stagnant points I have found myself from time to time, especially with the work/family life balance I have hammered on about recently so Bon Jovi’s reminder below is well timed. Hardly anything will go exactly according to plan. For this reason, I suppose it’s all good and well sketching out grand plans for the future, what I need to constantly remind myself is to allow these plans to be tweakable. So I’ll use a pencil from now on. How about that?

Sally Chiwuzie here, sunglasses on. Dream chasing and legacy building are on track. Continuous improvement has this to say: in mapping out plans for H2 2016, let’s swap the pen for a pencil. In the spirit of ‘less is more’, let’s just leave it at that, shall we?

Be unshakable. Be in truth with yourself. Love yourself.

Lots of love,
Unshakable Sally xxx

#SallyChiwuzie #UNSHAKABLE#TogetherWeAreUnshakable #SilentSymphonies#ThursdayLove #JonBonJovi ❤️Map out your future

 

Map out your future

roar with confidence

Roar with confidence

Roar with confidence

One of my earliest memories of living within a nuclear family is that my dad loved soft rock blasting through the entire house. Considering it was the 80’s, he was quite technically savvy, what with fancy connecting speakers linked to the main connection in their bedroom upstairs. He also had a microphone connected up there so in the middle of watching a cartoon or stealing cubes of sugar (don’t judge me) I would hear him through the public address system – ‘Sally, coffee please…’ I thought my dad was the coolest man alive, especially when his friends would hail him by his nickname – DonJ! Then I grew up and learnt about his crazy imperfections. Imperfections that had me thinking ‘I am soooo judging you right now. Jeez!’ All in all, I understand that the crazy mix of perfect imperfections and flaws has a lot to do with who I am today. Do you think me weird or a bit unusual? Opinionated? Fierce and/or feisty? I come from a mixed-blooded union – a mum who gave her all in every capacity and a dad who taught me sometimes intentionally, at other times subconsciously – inadvertently by virtue of his actions that above all things to know and love who I am because a tiger does not and will never declare its own tigritude. For this reason, I roar with confidence and blessed assurance. For this reason, I am proud. For this reason, I am unshakable!

Sally Chiwuzie here, sunglasses on. Dream chasing and legacy building are on track. I am listening to Jon Bon Jovi on the train, reminiscing about my childhood on my fathers 70th birthday. It’s been a long rough obstacle-clad road to womanhood, I tell ya, but I think I’ve done ok and a lot of that has to do with a strong foundation and an unshakable identity. Continuous improvement has this to say – Remember who you are always. Always!

Be unshakable. Be in truth with yourself. Love yourself.

Lots of love,
Unshakable Sally xxx

#SallyChiwuzie #UNSHAKABLE#TogetherWeAreUnshakable #SilentSymphonies#DonJ #Tigrituderoar with confidence

wild heart

Have a colourfully, exploratory wild heart

wild heart

 

I’m a hopeless romantic. A day dreaming, Dream chaser. A see-er of all things bright and beautiful for the most part and for this reason, the things that break my heart cause me to mourn for far longer than I should. If I embarked on every adventure my heart set out on, I would be a walking disaster. Some of the best of us are born this way and shouldn’t have to apologise for it or change it. We probably just need to learn to always take our head along for the ride for consultation as and when required; also to ensure that the heart stays within its cage when it comes up with clever nonsense like embarking on a mission to change a static situation that will never be anything other than what it is. So I understand there is no requirement to allow my heart to be anything other than what it is, except to ensure that my head tags along on its wild adventures, handcuffs in tow to ensure that it is restrained within its cage when it’s overzealous beat threatens the wellbeing of body and soul.

Sally Chiwuzie here, sunglasses on. Dream chasing and legacy building are on track. Continuous improvement has this to say: be unshakable. Have a colourfully, exploratory wild heart, but keep your head close by with the key to its cage. Get it?

Be unshakable. Be in truth with yourself. Love yourself.

Lots of love,
Unshakable Sally xxx

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