A day in the life of King WomanMy morning could not have started any worse. The sunshine blazing through the curtains woke me up. The sun never wakes me up. For the first time in a gazillion years, my alarm did not go off. Both my kids had come to share my bed the night before following an incident with a spider at silly o’clock and looking back now, I think one of them might have inadvertently hit a button and disabled the alarm. I jumped up because it was one of those days when we had to be out a good half hour earlier for multiple reasons.‘Wake up, wake up!’ I shook them out of their grogginess. ‘We are late!’Being a working single mother of two with a 9-5, a business on the side, on-demand chauffeur duties, and on call 24/7 for adhoc curveballs, my life runs like clockwork and everything has its own time allocation within the twenty four hours. Today, everything would have to run impromptu and off-schedule. I couldn’t look at the clock, not until I was about to jump in the shower and…’ding dong’ – that’s when I looked to make sure it was indeed 6.05am. Like seriously?! I was so going to ignore it but for the persistent knocking. The two strangers who stood at my front door were court officials collecting for an unpaid parking ticket. ‘Well, we have clamped your car and will be towing it away!’ He said matter-of-factly as he waved the paper in my face.‘How much?’ I asked, alarmed.‘It is errr….’ He read from the paper. ‘498 pounds please.’‘It was 30 bleep quid!’I couldn’t remember eventually paying it off and a part of me kicked myself for that unforgivable oversight. Another part wanted to ring up the company and burn it down with human rights breach accusations, but the most interesting of all my emotions was the part that missed being with a man. I admit this now because while my girlfriends have instant sympathy on offer, male friends wanted to take charge of the situation, replaying my reality with varying versions of how they would never have parted with a penny – not without a fight. In fact, thinking back a couple of moons and exes ago, there isn’t a chance in hell that those court officials would have walked off without full blown ruckus.I felt intimidated, vulnerable, alone and scared. How many times had I, King Woman, rehearsed the firm stand I would take if I ever encountered such incidents? The reality is that I froze and I couldn’t have parted with the money any quicker than I did. Once I shut that door, I leaned against it, clenching my chest so that my erratically beating heart wouldn’t drop to the floor. I got the kids ready for school without a flicker of suspicion, considering my impending implosion. Bree Van de Kemp’s (Desperate Housewives) poker face had nothing on mine. It was not until I boarded that train that I let it all out and wept. I wept because I wasn’t even accorded any time to fall apart over this – oh no, I could neither frighten the kids, nor go in late. I had a 9am workshop planned and I had bills to pay – especially having just lost part of my scheduled income to the brutal collection system.You see, I am well trained, via trial and error, in my role as King Woman and have become quite the expert in changing light bulbs with one eye on the oven contents. However, just because I can change a flat tyre and operate heavy machinery in low-riding baggy joggers doesn’t mean I am any less keen on strutting my stuff in a red dress with killer heels and in the company of a man who opens the car door for me to get in. I am also open to flowers (daffodils or tulips please. Red or ombré with a touch of white). I am feminist to my bone marrow, but I am not lost on the fact that some activities may be better suited to a particular gender. This does not mean that women are less capable than or weaker than men, or that gender inequality is justified. This does not mean that being single renders me incomplete either – in fact most of the time, my as-is situation works perfectly. It just means that I fully understand how during the whole creation thing, gender specification was intended as a compliment/complement of each of the sexes as opposed to a domination/replacement or ‘do or die’ affair.I was a tad late that day, but following a delayed train and yet, no time for a soya latte with a double caffeine shot, in the absence of slitting my wrists, I had not a single eff left to give. It was time to mentally regroup and by mid-morning it was all back to business as usual.It takes an unshakable mindset for any woman (regardless of relationship status) to pull off the off-schedule obstacles faced on a daily basis. This role is neither a walk in the park, nor does it come with a guaranteed 100% success rate 24/7. Humanness gets in the way and it can be bleep-bleep hard. On this basis, let respect be given where respect is due. Sometimes the King is a woman. It’s not a sex change, it’s an #UNSHAKABLE woman with a challenge. To you within whom this resonates, I doff my hat to you. Be unshakable…Be unshakable. Be in truth with yourself. Love yourself.With all my love,Sally xxx
#Unshakable is a state of mind
Have you heard about legally blind Jessica Gallagher – mega successful Australian Paralympic heroine? The rare disease Jessica suffers from means that her eyesight deteriorated over time. She’s unshakable! Do you think there were times when she hit rock bottom and questioned the validity of her life? Possibly. You see, I draw inspiration from stories of unshakable strength and courage such as these. My portion of sufferings may pale in comparison, however, I know what it feels like to hit rock bottom so much so that even the most basic requirement (waking up) is too much of an uphill task, too much to ask. I also know what it’s like to feel incapacitated within a situation created by unforeseen circumstances. I understand why the caged bird sings and I hear her lyrics clearly. I am familiar with feelings of hopelessness and helplessness. Having said that though, one thing I know for sure is that sometimes, rock bottom is a solid foundation. (Insert rock bottom photo here). You see, the reality of life is that we can form bonds, seek help and advice, discover people who walk the same path we do, but when it comes to the actual walking, nobody can do that for us. In the grand scheme of things, nobody can make our dreams come true. That only happens in Disney Land. It’s a human characteristic to seek validation, to depend on external influences for, happiness, fulfilment, to feel beautiful, worthy, make it all happen but the truth is that, as Jessica proves, all the power we need to be who we are destined to be exists within us already.During my process of self (re)discovery, I learnt this the hard way in many respects and have long since adopted the DIY philosophy. I learnt that people will let you down – jobs will fall short of expectations and things will go askew. Relationships will leave you in an emotional quandary and life will throw you weird arse curve balls. Your safe haven will occasionally sell out and the only thing that will make sense is your ability to decipher your own path in order to steer destiny in your favour. For me, it is right there…right there at rock bottom that the light bulb moment happens, after which I see clearly. In the depths of those cold moments of insane pain is where I learn to eliminate the words ‘I can’t’ from my mindset library to enable myself create magic moments of gold and gain. I think this is the point when amputated legs or blindness will not prevent a fabulous #TurnUp at the Paralympics, the loss of a marriage will not stop that dream, and from somewhere deep inside will erupt the courage to take a leap of faith for a dream that sometimes nobody but the dreamer can contemplate. One of the characteristics of being unshakable is to understand that in life nobody but you can save you. (Insert unshakable photo here) For me, it is at this realisation that I own my situation. I walk the walk, talk the talk, I become my own unshakable boss. This is the point at which I become my own damn super sexy superhero sporting a bright red cape. Yup. Recap – Rock bottom is a solid foundation. Unshakable is a state of mind. Sometimes you have to be your own superhero! (Insert superhero photo here)Be unshakable. Be in truth with yourself. Love yourself.Lots of love,Unshakable Sally x
When we stand together, we stand unshakable.
These are the words of Nigerian-born and UK-based writer Sally Chiwuzie, referring to her global campaign for women, “Together We Are Unshakable.” This campaign provides an online platform for women all over the world to share their own stories and free themselves from feeling broken, unloved or unworthy.
From her youth in Nigeria to her experiences during a difficult marriage, divorce and as a single mother, Chiwuzie has never held back in her writing. She shares her own past life challenges and the experiences of people she interacts with every day to encourage women everywhere to embrace their own value, tap into their own strength and transcend any obstacles that come their way.
Chiwuzie’s new novel, “Silent Symphonies,” is an extension of the “Together We Are Unshakable” campaign, addressing the challenges multicultural couples face, the reality and consequences of domestic violence, and the unrealistic expectations often present in relationships.
“Silent Symphonies” follows sultry Leila Cranston-Jasper as she seeks love, self-discovery and self-empowerment against the obstacles that come her way. Chiwuzie’s ultimate goal is for her new novel to contribute to the worldwide movement toward women’s evolution, empowerment and all-around prosperity.
“While it is fiction, a lot of the emotions buried within ‘Silent Symphonies’ are borrowed from real life,” Chiwuzie said. “Sharing my emotions and learning how people relate to my writing makes me feel fulfilled.”
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About the author
Sally Chiwuzie holds a law degree from the University of Hertfordshire and completed her Barrister training at the College of Law in the United Kingdom. She has been a writer all her life, and has been a blogger and magazine columnist for more than 10 years. Her seminal novel, “Silent Symphonies” took nearly 10 years to complete and is the foundation for the “Together We Are Unshakable” global online campaign she founded. She resides near London.
by Rae Ogbu
On March 14, 2016, author of Silent Symphonies and founder of the #Unshakable Movement, Sally Chiwuzie delivered a presentation at the UN Headquarters in New York during the United Nations My Sister’s Health Watch (MSHW) stakeholders forum- “Leave No Woman’s Health Issues Behind”- bringing herself forward as a subject matter expert on promoting the everyday woman’s holistic wellbeing.
“Today, I am backing the voice of influential Nigerian women like Oluremi Tinubu and Dr Abiola Akinyode, who are actively voicing these issues because it needs to be highlighted that since 1999, there has been a fixed 0.01% allocation of overall budget for women. What can =N=4billion or $20.1million do for our women, girls and children? Sadly, not much…” This set off a chain of reactions that were addressed by a forum of influential women, including Omolewa Ahmed, founder LEAH Foundation, Natela Menabde Executive Director of WHO and Her Excellency Dame Cécile La Grenade, Governor General of Grenada
It is clear that our society is in dire need for a reform of the health budget with particular emphasis on women, “we need to ensure also that the apportionment of this budget makes the best use of the resources at our disposal taking into consideration the 3 A’s of SDG3 – accessibility, availability and affordability. This means that it is time to call for a re-examination/ revisit of the country’s national budget to align with our changing times,” Chiwuzie said.
At the forum, various budgets were discussed and the consensus was that not enough was being done to protect women from healthcare issues globally. A lot has to be done to ensure that the 3A’s of SDG3 – accessibility, affordability, affordability. The solutions by various women called for a reform of the budget, allocation and definitely about the improvement of awareness. The MSHW went on to pledge work that will target young adults, students and children and work with school, colleges, civil societies and NGOs to strengthen the prevention and treatment of substance abuse, narcotic drugs and harmful use of alcohol. MSHW will establish MSHW Clubs in schools to educate, raise campaigns and work with drug companies and alcohol industries to raise discussions, empowerment programmes through creative education and entertainment in the next five years.
“We need a call to action to promote healthy living lifestyles – exercising and good diet; self-actualisation and realisation. In agreeing with our guest of honour, Alhaja J Al-Hassan (aka Mama Taraba), the issue of women’s health is to some degree a human rights issue which needs to be addressed with urgency. Domestic violence – emotional, physical, mental abuse, gender based violence are an ‘absolutely not!’ Discrimination on the grounds of sex and societies ability to contain today’s woman in a box that gives her no hope, no voice or empowerment needs to be eliminated,” Chiwuzie’s speech read.
“Your excellences’, distinguished guests, my name is Sally Chiwuzie and I am unshakable. This means that I understand that the ultimate accountability for my wellbeing lies with me. Through the power of story telling, I hope that we can take our metaphoric lit candle and tilt forward to light the next, in the understanding that it all begins with ‘self-love.’” (Read the complete speech delivered at www.sallychiwuzie.com)
Ms Chiwuzie, recently awarded a stakeholders position at MSHW is a highly recognised motivational speaker on social media and daily -has presented to thousands on topics such as mental health, strategies on handling your fast-paced life, the roots of Adult Happiness and other pertinent family and health issues. Her approachable and artistic style combines her expertise as a law graduate with her uncanny understanding of human nature. She has been prominently featured in the media, including Ben TV, Made Magazine, Ono Bello, Y!Africa Magazine amongst others.
SALLY ”UNSHAKABLE” CHIWUZIE
SALLY ‘’UNSHAKABLE’’ CHIWUZIE ROCKS!!!
SALLY CHIWUZIE HOLDS A LAW DEGREE FROM COLLEGE OF LAW, BLOOMSBURY, UNITED KINGDOM. SHE HAS BEEN A WRITER ALL HER LIFE, AND HAS BEEN A BLOGGER AND MAGAZINE COLUMNIST FOR MORE THAN 10 YEARS. SHE HAS WRITTEN FOR SEVERAL MAGAZINES AND BLOGS, AND HAS BEEN FEATURED ON CITY SCOPE FOR HER TREMENDOUS CONTRIBUTION IN EMPOWERING WOMEN GLOBALLY.
SALLY’S WRITINGS AS A YOUNG GIRL IN NIGERIA WERE RECOGNISED FROM THE START FOR HER HONESTY AND EMOTIONALLY CHARGED INSIGHT THAT TOUCHED HEARTS AND INSPIRED READERS TO TURN NEGATIVITY INTO DETERMINATION, WEAKNESS INTO STRENGTH, AND LEARN TO EVOLVE AND GROW THROUGH THE POWER OF STORY AND COMMUNITY.
SALLY WRITES BOOKS THAT EMPOWER WOMEN AND ENCOURAGE THEM TO EMBRACE EVERY ASPECT OF THEMSELVES FROM SEXUALITY TO THEIR WORTH. HER BOOKS SHARE THE IN DEPTH STORIES OF WOMEN’S MOST RAW, RELEVANT AND REAL EXPERIENCES ABOUT LOVE, PASSION, SEX, ROMANCE, LOSS, CONFLICT, ABUSE AND CHALLENGE. HER BOOK ALSO INSPIRES READERS TO UNDERSTAND THAT LIFE IS SUPPOSED TO BE FILLED WITH CHALLENGES AND THAT AT THE END OF THE DAY IT’S HOW WE HANDLE THOSE CHALLENGES THAT DEFINE OUR OWN STORIES AND THE QUALITY OF OUR LIVES.
INSPIRED BY A SHARED COMMITMENT TO HELPING WOMEN LEARN TO SEE THEMSELVES, LOVE THEMSELVES AND VALUE THEMSELVES. SALLY ENVISIONS HERSELF ACHIEVING HER LIFELONG DREAM OF SHARING THE POWER OF STORY THROUGH HER OWN LIFE EXPERIENCES AS WELL AS PEOPLE SHE MEETS IN THE COURSE OF HER LIFE; AND THE ABILITY OF USING INSPIRATIONAL BOOKS TO CONTRIBUTE TO WOMEN’S EVOLUTION, EMPOWERMENT AND ALL-ROUND PROSPERITY.
HER NOVEL, “SILENT SYMPHONIES” IS THE FOUNDATION FOR THE “TOGETHER WE ARE UNSHAKABLE” GLOBAL ONLINE CAMPAIGN SHE FOUNDED WHICH ENABLE READERS SHARE THEIR STORIES.
ON MARCH 14, 2016, SALLY WAS RECOGNISED AND AWARDED A STAKEHOLDERS POSITION BY THE UNITED NATIONS FOR HER EFFORTS WITH THE ‘’TOGETHER WE ARE UNSHAKABLE’’ AND DELIVERED A PRESENTATION AT THE UN HEADQUARTERS IN NEW YORK DURING THE UNITED NATIONS ‘’MY SISTER’S HEALTH WATCH’’ (MSHW) STAKEHOLDERS FORUM ‘’LEAVE NO WOMAN’S HEALTH ISSUES BEHIND’’ – BRINGING HERSELF FORWARD AS A SUBJECT MATTER EXPERT ON PROMOTING THE EVERYDAY WOMAN’S HOLISTIC WELLBEING.
CityScope Features Sally Chiwuzie
“There is no tool for development, more effective than the empowerment of women” – Kofi Annan
Black women are made out of brown sugar, cocoa, honey & gold, and the strength of ten thousand moons. Sally Chiwuzie is one of such black women.
Sally Chiwuzie is one of the most inspiring capacity builders and prolific writers to come on scene in decades. Award winning author, blogger, working mother, magazine columnist and leader of the “Together We’re Unshakable” Movement.
She is empowering women globally through her novels, starting with Silent Symphonies, the original “50 Shades of Grey.” etc. She writes books that empower women and encourage them to embrace every aspect of themselves from sexuality to their worth. Her books share the in depth stories of women’s most raw, relevant and real experiences about love, passion, sex, romance, loss, conflict, abuse and challenge.
Women are inspired to step into their value and worth and embrace every step of their journey in this life.
Sally has created a robust and diverse global online community movement using Social Media, where she engages book readers into her community to share their own stories and be a part of a bigger mission. The “Together We Are Unshakable Movement!” supports women’s causes as well as women’s ever evolving rise into economic empowerment.
Sally’s goal is to get Oprah’s blessing into the Oprah Book Club and share a public chat with Oprah on charting a new course to redefine womanhood.
Sally Chiwuzie inspires women by sharing emotionally naked, relevant and compelling stories about love, passion, sex, romance, loss, conflict, abuse and challenge that helps them to embrace their own value, tap into their own strength, and transcend the obstacles that life invariably throws in their way.
Sally’s writings as a young girl in Nigeria were recognized from the start for her honesty and emotionally charged insight that touched hearts and inspired readers to turn negativity into determination, weakness into strength, and learn to evolve and grow through the power of story and community. From her youth in Nigeria, to initiating the emigration of her family to the U.K., to her experiences during a difficult marriage, divorce and as a mother, Sally has never held back, sharing glorious highs and wrenching lows that continues to captivate a global community of loyal readers and supporters.
Her book, “Silent Symphonies,” took almost 10 years to complete as she fought self-doubt and discouragement, knowing that women feel pigeonholed into fitting the mold of a “perfect” wife, mother, and pretty much everything else. Sally’s book inspires readers to understand that life is supposed to be filled with challenges and that at the end of the day it’s how we handle those challenges that define our own stories and the quality of our lives.
Today, “Silent Symphonies” and the rest of Sally’s inspirational writings are the foundation of the “Together We’re Unshakable” Movement, a robust and diverse global online community where readers share their stories.
Contact: Instagram @sallychiwuzie
TOGETHER WE ARE UNSHAKABLE!
By Sally Chiwuzie
‘The world will be saved by the western woman.’
The state of our world! Today we inflict pain, suffering and injustice on each other in search of something that already exists within us. We are individually accountable for the change we wish to see in the world, especially us – women. We are the heart of the world; existence begins from somewhere deep within us, and by default we breathe unconditional love. The birth of this kind of love is powerful beyond imagination and more than enough to set the world ablaze as women drunk in self-love is akin to lit candles. All they need to do is tilt forward and light up another.
A woman brimming with love knows her value and settles for nothing less. She is neither arrogant nor or deceitful but her self-assuredness puts her on a leadership pedestal that calls her ‘queen of her world’. She is sexy and alluring, intelligent and confident. She stands firmly within the core foundation of her being. She lives in her truth and as a result, she sparkles so brightly, so far into the horizon that people are instantly saturated in her light. Those who respect her love her.
In my debut novel, “Silent Symphonies,” I identify with the search for the contentment that every woman seeks in her daily life. This fight – the fight for a wholeness that leads to spreading love is one that is not accomplishable by standing alone, but within an assemblage. For this reason, I created the Together We Are Unshakable movement, a global revolution that empowers women to love, be in truth with themselves and stand unshakable together. My aim is to encourage and then celebrate women who re-position themselves within their lives as leaders; to eradicate self-pity and doubt, the ‘victim syndrome’ and feelings of ostracism from the world of love.
I am in awe of the impact we, as women, can have on the world when we believe in ourselves, stand up for each other, stand united, stand together and stand unshakable. By creating a movement to support, lift up and hold each other in the highest possible regard, we create a strong circle of influence. Within this group, we are not black or white, fat or thin, the police or civilians, or even celebrities. We are simply women moving forward in the same direction, speaking with one voice, creating an extraordinary circle of influence by owning our value in recognition of a higher purpose. The purpose is to become, emulate and dissipate pure love, as love is intended to be. Dominance of love and peace in the world for generations to come is the ultimate objective of the unshakable woman. An unshakable woman is the hope of the world!
Be in truth with yourself;
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