MilliOnAir April Edition

It’s the end of Q1 2016. Let me ask this – what is the most significant thing that has happened to you this year?
I attended a funeral a couple of weeks ago. A childhood friend who, though had not been very close, I had had pivotal memory moments of because he was a legend and a half. He was only 36. Married. 3 kids. As bad as disasters go, this. Yes, this. The couple of weeks leading up to this funeral saw me question God, death, pain, fairness, all sorts. Then the sermon happened and it dispelled my myopia. This was the key message: that there are 90 year olds whose eulogies are blank white sheets and polite acknowledgements, people who die with many regrets and ‘if only’s’ and yet there we were, listening to multiple, lengthy, genuine tributes of a man who had not even lived half a lifetime. He had done in 36 years what 90 year olds often fail to accomplish and so he left this world because his work was completed with an A+.
I left that sermon in the hope that his family had received some level of blessed assurance and comfort.
As this happened to be the most emotional funeral I had ever attended, that night I was haunted by flashbacks and I imagined what it would be like if my life ended suddenly. I asked myself 3 pertinent questions. 1. What had I loved about my life. 2. Would I have any regrets? 3. If I were given one more crack at living, what would I do differently?
On this basis, I am armed with all the lessons learnt from Q1 and about to apply them as we enter into the next phase of year.
I am hopeful that Q2 2017 will see the incorporation of lessons learnt thus far as a basis for continuous improvement, and towards ensuring that #Unshakable Transformation 2017 is a roaring success.
Being unshakable does not mean being perfect by any standard. It means being the best version of oneself in existence at any point in time. It means taking the everyday experiences of life and using them as a leverage to harness our biggest potential yet so that when we eventually leave this world tomorrow, next week, next decade or at 101, in fulfilling our purpose, we would have left no stone unturned. I’d quite like to get to the point where I would have expelled all of myself to the extent where I would be content enough to want to live, and yet be willing to die. This is the mission.
Be unshakable. Be in truth with yourself. Love yourself.

MilliOnAir March Edition

Silent Symphonies is my debut novel – the first in a compelling trilogy. It was birthed out of my realisation that we all have this grand idea of what we think our lives will pan out to be. Whether or not we will get married, the kind of person they will be, number of kids we will have, the perfect job we will end up in, and how we will grow old and grey along side our nearest and dearest doing the things we love. We work towards our expectations, doing everything we must to ensure that by virtue of the laws of attraction we bag this customised life we have dreamed up. Life concurs in the sense that the very foundation of who we are will lead us down certain assured paths, however, life will not always co-operate. It will throw us random curve balls that will knock us for six. Within those circumstances, we will fight to fulfil what every fibre of our beings tell us is our destiny. However, life will pick us apart, breaking us down, showing us versions of ourselves we never knew existed, and slowly we will learn to accept that some paths are a must-walk, not because they are easy, but because they are assigned to us and sometimes it’s about unbecoming everything we are not to discover who we are.

Several Q and A sessions that followed the publishing of Silent Symphonies saw me explain the above in as much detail as My heart undersold, with ‘unshakable’ being the operative word in many a description. Being unshakable is not about gender or what we do for a living, our sexual orientation or our choice of beverage. Being unshakable is about taking everything life throws at us and rebirthing ourselves constantly in the face of adversity. It is not a static state and like a caterpillar breaking through its pod to become a butterfly, it will see us finding better versions of ourselves everyday. It is exactly about spending a life time re-discovering our uniqueness and using that individuality to add a splash of colour to the world one moment at a time.
The reason I write about real, raw and relevant emotions is to tell the stories in your heart – the ones that you may not necessarily be able to articulate or talk about, the forbidden topics and everyday chaotic shades of grey. It creates a forum for experience sharing. If it helps one person out of the thousands the posts reach, that’s fulfilment for me. Additionally, it’s trialled and tested time without number – when we stand together, we stand unshakable. Please support my movement so that together we will continue to discover new reasons to align ourselves to being unshakable.
Be unshakable. Be in truth with yourself. Love yourself.
Lots of love,
Sally xxx
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MilliOnAir February Edition

#Unshakable is a state of mind

Have you heard about legally blind Jessica Gallagher – mega successful Australian Paralympic heroine? The rare disease Jessica suffers from means that her eyesight deteriorated over time. She’s unshakable! Do you think there were times when she hit rock bottom and questioned the validity of her life? Possibly. You see, I draw inspiration from stories of unshakable strength and courage such as these. My portion of sufferings may pale in comparison, however, I know what it feels like to hit rock bottom so much so that even the most basic requirement (waking up) is too much of an uphill task, too much to ask. I also know what it’s like to feel incapacitated within a situation created by unforeseen circumstances. I understand why the caged bird sings and I hear her lyrics clearly. I am familiar with feelings of hopelessness and helplessness. Having said that though, one thing I know for sure is that sometimes, rock bottom is a solid foundation. (Insert rock bottom photo here). You see, the reality of life is that we can form bonds, seek help and advice, discover people who walk the same path we do, but when it comes to the actual walking, nobody can do that for us. In the grand scheme of things, nobody can make our dreams come true. That only happens in Disney Land. It’s a human characteristic to seek validation, to depend on external influences for, happiness, fulfilment, to feel beautiful, worthy, make it all happen but the truth is that, as Jessica proves, all the power we need to be who we are destined to be exists within us already.

During my process of self (re)discovery, I learnt this the hard way in many respects and have long since adopted the DIY philosophy. I learnt that people will let you down – jobs will fall short of expectations and things will go askew. Relationships will leave you in an emotional quandary and life will throw you weird arse curve balls. Your safe haven will occasionally sell out and the only thing that will make sense is your ability to decipher your own path in order to steer destiny in your favour. For me, it is right there…right there at rock bottom that the light bulb moment happens, after which I see clearly. In the depths of those cold moments of insane pain is where I learn to eliminate the words ‘I can’t’ from my mindset library to enable myself create magic moments of gold and gain. I think this is the point when amputated legs or blindness will not prevent a fabulous #TurnUp at the Paralympics, the loss of a marriage will not stop that dream, and from somewhere deep inside will  erupt the courage to take a leap of faith for a dream that sometimes nobody but the dreamer can contemplate. One of the characteristics of being unshakable is to understand that in life nobody but you can save you. (Insert unshakable photo here) For me, it is at this realisation that I own my situation. I walk the walk, talk the talk, I become my own unshakable boss. This is the point at which I become my own damn super sexy superhero sporting a bright red cape. Yup. Recap – Rock bottom is a solid foundation. Unshakable is a state of mind. Sometimes you have to be your own superhero! (Insert superhero photo here)
Be unshakable. Be in truth with yourself. Love yourself.
Lots of love,
Unshakable Sally x

MilliOnAIR January Edition

On the matter of being feminist, I resonate with Oprah’s quote: ‘I never consider or call myself a feminist, but I don’t think you can really be a woman in this world and not be’. From my point of view, specific gender categorisation has become more of a blur with indecipherable shades of grey over the passage of time. This belief has meant that my sexuality (could I be lesbian perhaps?), religion (should I not be submissive to a husband and dare I be unashamed at being divorced?) and cultural upbringing (is a single-income earning household normal considering my roots?) have been called into question more regularly than I care to recall. Still, I am convinced there is a much wider problem. 
I swapped my red glitter lipstick for old track bottoms the other day and took a trip to B & Q – the hardware store in search of tiles for the bathroom upstairs and I got up, close and personal with series of tool boxes. Admittedly the tips I hadn’t picked up from the Internet were learnt by asking questions. Again, admittedly, I asked my male friends. As I washed the dirt out of, and untangled my unruly Afro later that night, I thought that I would certainly be blogging about heritage and cultural expression + the evolution of feminism over time, until my eleven year old daughter walked in and told me she knew a better shampoo brand for non-caucasian hair because she had read it up on the Internet, whilst searching for new school shoes. So I changed my mind and was going to write instead about how children are attaining independence at an even absurdly earlier age. That is until she also reminded me that if we ordered the shoes early enough on Amazon prime, they could actually arrive the same day. I didn’t know that. 
I think I know what the problem is. Change. The world is changing at a ridiculous pace and people have problems accepting anything that is outside the box of set societal principles. So when it comes to feminism, for example, I am not convinced that the problem is mass fear of women overthrowing men per se, I think it’s the discombobulation attached to the power of the modern empowered woman. Bar sperm creation and perhaps physical strength (which is debatable these days), she can do almost anything within the remit of her male counterpart’s ability by virtue of the fact that she is armed with knowledge. A lot of this has a to do with the evolution of the world – technological advancement, and sheer determination / personal circumstances. 
And yet, even though the world accepts that ‘thou’ and ‘thy’ are no longer acceptable as examples of modern day pronoun definitions, and that dinosaurs are extinct, society will still not make allowances for individual growth. The result is war, discrimination and general unwarranted hatred. For this reason, those who have made an educated decision to follow a religious, cultural or otherwise individual path are too scared to be the minority martyrs and die instead of implosion if they don’t explode out of sheer frustration and end up on the horror movie that has become our CNN for unspeakable crimes.
My journey of self (re)discovery gives me a chance to render my personal views for open criticism without batting an eyelid when someone has a conflicting opinion or way of life. It’s all part of the evolution. On that basis, here are a few of my unshakable truths:
– I believe in gender equality. I am feminist. 
– I am black African originally and my hair is a mass of tight curls which can be untameable, but allow for a stand-alone expression of rich history. I also love straight hair. 
– I am divorced, and feel unbroken and complete.
– I am Christian.
– I am a single mother of curious children. 
– I have friends of varying backgrounds and this will be the case until the end of time. Everybody regardless of age, background or belief is my teacher with the potential to star in my life story. For this reason, my ears shall remain wide open. 
The points above are the reasons why you can find my blogs on most social media outlets on a daily basis. Because we are individuals with our own choices, problems, pressures, daily routines, we have our own unique set of principles which set us apart from the rest of the world. We should be able to showcase these without fear. Full stop.
My name is Sally Chiwuzie and I believe in the power of individualism. I am unshakable. ‘Unshakable’ is a state of mind. The motto is: 
Be unshakable. Be in truth with yourself. Love yourself. 
Love,
Sally x

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MilliOnAIR December Edition

On the long and winding path down memory lane, with eyes wide shut and gold glitter on my fingertips, I run my fingers through the cracks of my heart. Every crack tells it’s own story of courage and hope, of sadness and greatness. Each, intent on imparting a lesson that only the unwise would ignore.

1. To live for today and love for tomorrow is the wisdom of a fool, for tomorrow is promised to no-one.

2. Live for today. Live in such a way that our regrets are never due to carelessness, especially when it comes to matters of the heart. Think about that for a second. Got it? Carry on 😊

3. Follow your heart, but take your head along with you always. They work better as a tag team.

4. Indulge your soul in a tango for two somewhere above the metaphoric clouds. Only in the solitude of empty spaces will you hear its favourite songs.

5. You can say ‘no’ and still be a good person. In fact, somewhere down the line, you might get a ‘thank you’.

6. Sometimes a ‘no’ will turn out to be a ‘yes’ in a roundabout way, and with the benefit of hindsight. A lesson is often a blessing in disguise.

7. You cannot miss what you do not have. For the days when your temper tantrum has to do with whether your tea was stirred anti-clockwise or not, remember that it was a kettle filled with water. Electricity enabled the boiling – a luxury that some will never know in a lifetime.

8. Everybody makes mistakes. We spend a lifetime learning. It’s fair to forgive yourself for indiscretions.

9. Everyone goes through the mistake recycle stage. Life will often allow a recurring situation until you learn the lesson it’s trying to teach you.

10. Never dim your light because it’s too bright for someone else. You could buy them sunglasses, but let that light shine always.

11. May your light guide your path of truth, and be of use too. When they try to stub out your light, you have more than enough in flames to burn that bridge. Burn it!

12. Home is where the heart is. Quite often, your heart will say: ‘not here’, ‘not this’, ‘not you’…

Trust the whispers of your soul, that’s Gods voice.

These are my favourite #unshakable truths for 2016. Join me in 2017 as we figure it out together. In the meantime, may we take our glittering gold clad cracks into the new year, safe in the knowledge that for all our cracks, we are imperfectly perfect.

Be unshakable. Be in truth with yourself. Love yourself.

Sally xxx

Follow me on Facebook, Twitter, Instagram, Pinterest and Google+ for a daily dose of #UNSHAKABLE truths. My debut novel, Silent Symphonies, is the first in a series of books about real, raw and relevant emotion. This book is also the foundation of #UNSHAKABLE. If you would like to buy a copy of Silent Symphonies, please click here:

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MilliOnAir November Edition

I once bore horrors in a thankless marriage until I learnt to fly. Recently, I walked out on the date because he showed signs that reminded me of my pre-unshakable mental state – the era before I realised that the capacity to love another begins with the ability to love oneself first. Now I know what I bring to the table, for this reason, I am not afraid to dine alone. The thing is, nowadays I am no longer a ‘what’s up?’ kind’a lady. My mind is constantly detailed. So let’s start here:

It took a decade to complete my debut novel, Silent Symphonies. In that time, life happened – I emigrated to the UK, did the UK bar, got married, had two kids, got divorced and rerouted my career. As you can imagine, this is the short version. I can tell you, though, that publishing Silent Symphonies happened as part of a continuing journey of self (re)discovery, some of which I would like to share with you – my #UNSHAKABLE truths. 

2. The dream is free. The hustle isn’t, and in fact, sold as a separate package. Nobody knows this better than an airy-fairy hopelessly romantic day-dreamer (me 😊). Where that dream feels like little fireworks going off in your soul, it’s usually worth the blood, sweat and tears. In addition, you get what you pay for. The bigger the dream, the more picturesque the fireworks. I came to the UK with a cheque for fifty pounds gifted to me by my grandma. ‘Nuff said. 
4. Rock bottom is a solid foundation. Adulthood has consisted mainly of unknowns – dust and rain, mustang and fame – moments of gold and gain or cold moments of intense pain. The demise of my marriage was a low point. It was literally impossible to sink any lower and out of the abyss of nothingness, I had to learn to climb quickly. Had I found happily ever after in love, I would never have published Silent Symphonies – which leads me to my next #UNSHAKABLE truth:
6. Sometimes a rejection is actually an acceptance, but in disguise. If every literally agent had jumped at the idea of Silent Symphonies, I probably would have lived and loved every moment spent on the shelves of many a WH Smith, however, I wouldn’t have had to work hard at advertising, marketing and branding. I wouldn’t have discovered the dormant hunger to do more than just put pretty words together that existed within me. Something stirred from ‘no’s’. My trending global movement, #UNSHAKABLE was born because I wanted to explore my souls stirrings and share. Result – #UNSHAKABLE. #UNSHAKABLE is a state of mind that promotes individuality. So now, when I kneel down to pray, I twiddle my thumbs (impatiently even sometimes, thankfully, God loves me 😊) in anticipation but I know I will always get a yes, albeit possibly not in the form I expect. 
8. To be unshakable is to be in truth with yourself. It’s to love yourself. I struggle with this concept from time to time because I am conscious of my flaws, however my journey of self (re)discovery has taught me that I am not only my imperfections, I am my perfections as well. So when someone asked me what it truly means to love yourself, this is what I said: when God made you, it wasn’t some mass production activity, a dozen a dollar, or buy one get one free promotion for the world to commonise. He didn’t replicate your soul either. There might be a few similar souls, but none exactly like yours because your creation was deliberate and with purpose, the end product bursting with uniqueness. For this reason, what resonates with your neighbours soul might unsettle yours and that’s ok. Stand out. Do you. Transform as often as you need to remain in sync with your soul. In a status quo obsessed world, loving yourself means living within your truth to the exclusion of the worlds opinion. If your relationship, your job, your passion, your lifestyle, dress size or hair colour works, it works; if it doesn’t, get rid. Let it burn! When faced with the decision to go left or right at the crossroads (and believe me, you will a good few times), go not in the direction the world pronounces acceptable (only dead fish go with the flow), but in the direction in which you hear your souls song in lyrics so distinct to you, it’s resonance is personal and unmistakable. Believing in the authenticity and power of you is to love yourself. To love yourself is to find inner peace. When you find inner peace, you find the ability to love your neighbour as yourself…with ease. Isn’t this what love is all about? And if this isn’t the cure for today’s worlds broken heart, I don’t know what is. For this reason, I allow the fires of transformation to burn all that does not serve me. 
10. You will never be everybody’s cup of tea, and you know what? That’s ok. When I started blogging, I used to get hung up on the fact that a cross-section of society didn’t give a monkeys about my brand or that it did not instantly propel me to stardom, or that some of the reviews for Silent Symphonies were at best, luke-warm but I realised that other people’s opinion about me – neither here nor there. In the grand scheme of things, my path is individual and will not automatically align with every other path at the cross-roads and this is by no means a yardstick for measuring a successful. Above all else, unto thyself be true 😊
12. Fall down six times, get up seven. I was determined to stay in that marriage if only not to add to the UK divorce statistics, but moreso because I did not think for one minute that going it alone was a viable option. Oh how I fell repeatedly. Scraped knees and all. Sigh. Falling down is not the problem. The problem is falling down so many times that whilst on the floor, you toy with the idea of staying there. Toying with the idea of staying there for a split human second is a forgivable sin. What is unforgivable is refusing back up. That is epic failure! 
14. So armed with all the aforementioned, I launched into, and published Silent Symphonies, followed by #UNSHAKABLE. This is the reason why most people who read it feedback that they find themselves in-between the pages. Well, that’s because non-fluffy as-is reality is embedded within it. Because life is full of indecipherable shades of grey, one must remain unshakable 
16. Odd numbers make me nervous. Silent Symphonies is written in even numbers and starts at chapter 2 😊

If you would like to know more about me, please visit my website and/or write to me – sally@sallychiwuzie.com. I am Google-able, please follow me on social media. I am always up for a good chat, trust me, I’m not a ‘what’s up?’ Kind’a lady 😉

If you would like to buy a copy of Silent Symphonies, please click here: http://www.lulu.com/shop/sally-chiwuzie/silent-symphonies/paperback/product-22031354.html

Be unshakable. Be in truth with yourself. Love yourself.

Lots of love,
Sally 

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MilliOnAir September Edition

#Unshakable is a state of mind

Have you heard about legally blind Jessica Gallagher – mega successful Australian Paralympic heroine? The rare disease Jessica suffers from means that her eyesight deteriorated over time. She’s unshakable! Do you think there were times when she hit rock bottom and questioned the validity of her life? Possibly. You see, I draw inspiration from stories of unshakable strength and courage such as these. My portion of sufferings may pale in comparison, however, I know what it feels like to hit rock bottom so much so that even the most basic requirement (waking up) is too much of an uphill task, too much to ask. I also know what it’s like to feel incapacitated within a situation created by unforeseen circumstances. I understand why the caged bird sings and I hear her lyrics clearly. I am familiar with feelings of hopelessness and helplessness. Having said that though, one thing I know for sure is that sometimes, rock bottom is a solid foundation. (Insert rock bottom photo here). You see, the reality of life is that we can form bonds, seek help and advice, discover people who walk the same path we do, but when it comes to the actual walking, nobody can do that for us. In the grand scheme of things, nobody can make our dreams come true. That only happens in Disney Land. It’s a human characteristic to seek validation, to depend on external influences for, happiness, fulfilment, to feel beautiful, worthy, make it all happen but the truth is that, as Jessica proves, all the power we need to be who we are destined to be exists within us already.

During my process of self (re)discovery, I learnt this the hard way in many respects and have long since adopted the DIY philosophy. I learnt that people will let you down – jobs will fall short of expectations and things will go askew. Relationships will leave you in an emotional quandary and life will throw you weird arse curve balls. Your safe haven will occasionally sell out and the only thing that will make sense is your ability to decipher your own path in order to steer destiny in your favour. For me, it is right there…right there at rock bottom that the light bulb moment happens, after which I see clearly. In the depths of those cold moments of insane pain is where I learn to eliminate the words ‘I can’t’ from my mindset library to enable myself create magic moments of gold and gain. I think this is the point when amputated legs or blindness will not prevent a fabulous #TurnUp at the Paralympics, the loss of a marriage will not stop that dream, and from somewhere deep inside will  erupt the courage to take a leap of faith for a dream that sometimes nobody but the dreamer can contemplate. One of the characteristics of being unshakable is to understand that in life nobody but you can save you. (Insert unshakable photo here) For me, it is at this realisation that I own my situation. I walk the walk, talk the talk, I become my own unshakable boss. This is the point at which I become my own damn super sexy superhero sporting a bright red cape. Yup. Recap – Rock bottom is a solid foundation. Unshakable is a state of mind. Sometimes you have to be your own superhero! (Insert superhero photo here)
Be unshakable. Be in truth with yourself. Love yourself.
Lots of love,
Unshakable Sally x
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Sally Chiwuzie Pens SILENT SYMPHONIES.

LONDON

When we stand together, we stand unshakable.

These are the words of Nigerian-born and UK-based writer Sally Chiwuzie, referring to her global campaign for women, “Together We Are Unshakable.” This campaign provides an online platform for women all over the world to share their own stories and free themselves from feeling broken, unloved or unworthy.

From her youth in Nigeria to her experiences during a difficult marriage, divorce and as a single mother, Chiwuzie has never held back in her writing. She shares her own past life challenges and the experiences of people she interacts with every day to encourage women everywhere to embrace their own value, tap into their own strength and transcend any obstacles that come their way.

Chiwuzie’s new novel, “Silent Symphonies,” is an extension of the “Together We Are Unshakable” campaign, addressing the challenges multicultural couples face, the reality and consequences of domestic violence, and the unrealistic expectations often present in relationships.

“Silent Symphonies” follows sultry Leila Cranston-Jasper as she seeks love, self-discovery and self-empowerment against the obstacles that come her way. Chiwuzie’s ultimate goal is for her new novel to contribute to the worldwide movement toward women’s evolution, empowerment and all-around prosperity.

“While it is fiction, a lot of the emotions buried within ‘Silent Symphonies’ are borrowed from real life,” Chiwuzie said. “Sharing my emotions and learning how people relate to my writing makes me feel fulfilled.”

Silent Symphonies by Sally Chiwuzie
Hardcover, $35.95
Paperback, $20.95
e-Book, $11.99
ISBN: 9781483420394
Available at amazon.com, barnesandnoble.com, lulu.com and sallychiwuzie.com

About the author
Sally Chiwuzie holds a law degree from the University of Hertfordshire and completed her Barrister training at the College of Law in the United Kingdom. She has been a writer all her life, and has been a blogger and magazine columnist for more than 10 years. Her seminal novel, “Silent Symphonies” took nearly 10 years to complete and is the foundation for the “Together We Are Unshakable” global online campaign she founded. She resides near London.

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